A book for Christian widows, whether newly bereaved or alone for many years--a book for all seasons of loss. Upbeat, practical and inspiring, this book, and the companion book Widow's Might, points a widow toward healthy single personhood in Christ. Family, friends, pastors and counselors will receive help in understanding the Christian widow from these pages.
Rather than use the term "widowed," Leona prefers to use the term "singled out" in the sense of the Christian woman being chosen and appointed by God for her new role in life as a single again. She writes from experience, having lost her husband, Ted, the father of their four children, after 45 years of marriage and missionary ministry.
Leona Choy explores universal grief feelings from multiple directions with tender understanding. Besides drawing on her own experience and extensive research, she shares moving stories and examples of fellow travelers on the road to healthy adjustment. Anchoring her insights squarely in the Scriptures, she applies God's principles with tender honesty. She doesn't hesitate to probe deep feelings and wrestle with hard questions.
A grief counselor commented, "Grieving people need down-to-earth wisdom. Leona doesn't preach or find fault with those who struggle with grief. She offers us wisdom and nestles our wounded hearts into the loving heart of God."
Dr. Chester L. Schneider, retired clinical
psychiatrist and former medical missionary, endorsed Leona's book
in the Foreword:
"As a practicing psychiatrist for many years, her writing
makes sense to me professionally and personally. If widows I
treated had read this book soon after the death of their
husbands, many may not have needed my professional services. Not
all grieving requires intervention by a professional. That's
where Leona's book comes in."
"I have known the author for many years to be honest, direct and perceptively sensitive. She addresses a wide variety of facets arising from widowhood. It's difficult to imagine any she has overlooked. She allows herself to be vulnerable and the result is that readers can readily identify with her. I would eagerly have recommended her book to my patients had it been available."
Leona writes, "As a new widow, I thought God wanted me to hurry toward adjustment. Somehow I thought that if I spent time in working through some of my grief that it would be "unchristian." Wouldn't God be displeased if I wasn't immediately victorious? After all, my Christian husband had entered the thrilling new dimension of heaven. He was with Christ at last and free from pain, trials and limitations. I was supposed to rejoice.
"Therefor I didn't take time to cross a natural bridge over my troubled waters-- the bridge of the initial healthy grieving process God Himself lovingly provides. But better late than never, I discovered I had to go back to confront, embrace and work through my normal emotions. Only then could I move on to healthy personhood as a single again and experience the delight of finding God's new assignment. My Valley of Grief became a joyful Valley of Learning!"
This is a book whose time has come. It differs from many books on the subject. Leona writes with sensitive understanding to inspire and encourage the woman who has suffered the loss of a spouse and is often pressured by the well-meaning to "get over it" quickly. She recognizes and addresses the great diversity of responses to grief due to our various temperaments, backgrounds and experience, and applies sound biblical principles.
See also the new Study Guide for individuals and groups to accompany this book.
See also the new "A Taste Of...." book Walk the Green Valley mini-devotional nuggets of comfort and encouragement excerpted from the book Singled Out.
Available in paperback $14.95
If ordered in combination with THE WIDOW'S MIGHT, only
$27.95
A 20% discount is available when you purchase this book, if you
have already purchased Walk the Green Valley,
which is a Sampler Introductory Book for Singled Out.
ISBN 1-889283-03-7
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